As the Dad of a breastfed baby, do you feel that you have been involved in the process?

Although Holly was the one to feed Jack, there are still so many opportunities to bond with your child. For example, Dads can still enjoy skin to skin with baby. Also, I enjoy things like rocking them to sleep, holding them whilst they sleep, and of course, playing with them as they get older. I’ve always enjoyed chatting to them when they're feeding too! 

How did you help Holly if things felt difficult?

I think the most important way I was able to help was by listening to my partner. The main thing you can do as a father is to help the mother in whatever way she needs support. Holly was keeping the babies alive and fed. I cracked on with things around the house, and family admin. I know that a tidy house helped both our mental health. 

What advice would you give to new Dads?

Something I learned is that you don't need to fix things. I remember my partner feeling stressed early on about the breastfeeding journey, so I offered to run to the shop and buy formula. But I learned that’s not what Mum wanted to hear – she just wanted someone to listen in that moment and be heard.

Also, try to enjoy every moment: they won't always be small and want you to read them a story to sleep. They won't always want you to get on the floor and play silly games. So read the books, play the games, and make their childhood as good as you can - because that's the part they'll remember.

I would say to any new Dads or Dads-to-be that yes, your life is going to change. You may no longer be out with mates every weekend but you won't want to be, as the Dad in you would much prefer to stay home and spend quality time with baby. Then when you do get a break away it feels so much better.